The Singles’ Battle with Fear

 1.) Fear of Being Alone

We are born for relationships…

We want to love and be loved. But let me tell you something! To all of my girls in the Singles, please don’t get engaged to a man who makes you feel ugly and not worthy just because you are afraid of being alone and you think no one will love you!

There is a story in the Bible about this in Ruth 3:9 that I love: Ruth came to Boaz at night and she slept at his feet. She was willing to pay the price of losing her reputation by being perceived as a prostitute. But Boaz protected Ruth and redeemed her by asking her to be his wife!

He didn’t take advantage of her. He didn’t touch her. Instead, he protected her! And, Sister, if you are searching for a man, study the characteristics of Boaz, because this is the kind of man God wants for you!

Maybe you are looking around you and you see that all of your friends are getting married one by one and you start asking yourself, “What is wrong with me? Am I too ugly? Am I too short? Am I too fat? Am I too smart?” And each year that passes, your heart cries and you wonder if you ever will fall in love.

But let me tell you, Sister, that you are not alone! There is one person who walks with you every day—your father, God. Every memory you wanted to share with someone, every tear, every embarrassing story, He was there! He has seen it all!

So, for every single sister, let me tell you that all this time you have never walked alone! You have a daddy who walks with you every day! And what kind of relationship does he want with you?

Hosea 2:19- 20 (MSG)

“And then I’ll marry you for good—forever! I’ll marry you true and proper, in love and tenderness. Yes, I’ll marry you and neither leave you nor let you go. You’ll know me, GOD, for who I really am.”

He wants an intimate relationship with you. He promises to love you forever! He promises to be tender. And He promises He will never leave you or let you go!

I will share with you what made me give up my wedding day! My fiancé!

Ezekiel 16:8 (NIV)

“Later I passed by, and when I looked at you and saw that you were old enough for love, I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your naked body. I gave you my solemn oath and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Sovereign Lord, and you became mine.”

In the Old Testament, when someone spread his skirt and covered the naked woman, it meant he wanted to marry her! God has covered my naked body—He wants to marry me! He said, “You are mine!” And what is the proof of his promise?

Jesus. He didn’t cover you with a skirt like Boaz; he covered you with His blood! So, Sisters, please take the ring in your hand and close your eyes while I read God’s vow to you:

To the love of my life!

I promise you I will love you forever (2 Chronicles 6:14).

I promise you I will always be on your side (Romans 8:31-32).

I promise you I will always protect you (Psalm 36:7).

I promise you I will always be there to help you in times of trouble (Psalm 109:21).

I promise you I will always be gentle, patient, and kind to you (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).

I promise you nothing will separate me from you neither death nor life (Romans 8:35-36).

I know you will hurt me but I promise you I will always forgive you (Micah 7:18).

The moment I saw you I loved you first and I will always do (1 John 4:9-10).

So, I want all of you sisters to wear the ring now. And every time you feel lonely, look at it, and remember you are not alone!

2.) Fear of the future

Usually, challenges are a normal part of our daily life. But we all know that, with the coronavirus, we feel insecure because we don’t know what will happen! That might force us to wonder if God still there. Does He care? Does He have a plan for me?

Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Sisters, trust me—God has a plan for you and His plans are to give you hope and a future. But let me give you three tips that will help you during the time of uncertainty!

1.)    Surrender yourself and all of your troubles to God! When we realize that there is supernatural strength available to us from above then our perspective on life will change.

2.)    Replace negative thoughts with positive ones (e.g. the promise of God). Your thoughts are extremely powerful and they can affect things like your mood, your attitude, and, yes, even your actions. So when you find yourself thinking negative thoughts that are bringing you down, start thinking about positive scriptures that will lift you up.

3.)    Don’t depend on yourself. Most of us have faced disappointment that has made us think that we can only depend on ourselves, but the Bible tells us in Proverbs 3:5, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding!”

Like I shared with you before, following Jesus cost me everything—even my career!

Realizing that God gave each one of us a unique talent, I prayed fervently that God will increase my influence. I have always believed in Media. One time, we had a conference named “Does God Exist?” I used my expertise in marketing and I advertised God! I went to a local TV station and had an interview about that conference and God opened so many doors afterwards. I was hosted in more than eight channels in the Middle East!

God blessed me with a radio show that lasted for two years, discussing marital problems. Then Sat7, a TV station, appointed me as a presenter to a program. And I prayed and told God that I will never ask the media to give me a program. They would need to call me so I would know that it is from Him! And to this day, after 12 years, they have been calling on me!

This is my story. How about you? What does it cost you to put your life, your plan, your loved ones, your desires, your future, your finances, your career, into God’s hands? What do you have to give up in order to give in to His control?